In this guest post, Jennifer Koh, a mommy blogger, provides 4 tactics for quickly stopping tantrums in seconds.
As a mother of 5, I know how difficult toddlers can be. One moment that can be happy and laughing, and the next they can melt down like me on PMS.
I’ve read practically every popular book dealing with strong-willed children — and how to handle their tantrums and defiant behavior. I tried everything from “time-out sessions” to allowing them to just throw a fit in public while I simply walked away until they got scared and came running after me.
However, after years of research and talking with other parents, I finally figured out a variety of ways that keep my children under control (just like I got my wife’s yippy chihuahua to keep quiet by having his vocal chords removed).
Here are 4 proven methods that will help you keep your child under control:
1. Take advantage of your child’s pressure points.
The first time I saw Spock use the “Vulkan Nerve Pinch” to render someone unconscious, I knew he was on to something. Spock even used a pressure-point pinch on a horse-like creature, so I knew controlling a toddler would be a piece of cake. Study a pressure point map of the human body to learn all the places that can be used to inflect instant pain on your child with just a gentle pinch. Your child will literally curl up into a little ball and stop his or her tantrum in seconds.
2. Use hypnotherapy.
My hypnotherapist suggested working with each of my children to help them with their outbursts and strong-willed behavior. I provided each child with three hypnotherapy sessions with her, and my therapist provided me with “trigger” words that instill severe pain and discomfort the moment they do something disobedient. This has worked extremely well when they begin to throw a tantrum. My child will literally get paralyzed in pain the moment I use a trigger word to stop whatever behavior I don’t want them doing.
3. Use chimpanzee disciplining tactics.
Dr. Jane Goodall studied how chimpanzees quickly discipline their young while in captivity, and was impressed with the ‘harmonious relationships’ between parent and child (Goodall 1963). In many ways, chimpanzee disciplining techniques are far more evolved and effective than our typical methods. You see, chimps in captivity feel social anxiety when being observed, and seek to quickly end inappropriate behavior in their young quickly to avoid further embarrassment (Goodall, 1962). Common chimp disciplining tactics include: cold water baths, forcing defiant chimps to hang from a tree branch for one or more hours, withholding bananas and fruit from them for several days, and forcing them to do hard labor (e.g. stack large boulders and tree branches in a pile). These methods quickly teach strong-willed chimps to follow the rules.
4. Never discipline the same way each time.
In the past, I would always give my kids “timeouts,” but soon discovered that keeping the discipline unknown was far more effective. There is a fear in the unknown, and I let my kids dwell in fear all the time since they are never quite sure what I will do to them after disobeying me.
Through using the above tactics, you’ll quickly gain control over your child and reduce tantrums and outbursts in seconds.